What Do You Want?

Guest post by Brian Logsdon (author bio at end of post)

What do you want?

Have you ever had that thought? Hmmm. What do I want? Broad question but let me give you the favorite answer – survey says: Ding! Happiness! 97% said they just wanted to be happy. The other three percent wanted to be rich because they thought that would buy happiness….

What makes us happy? What do we want that would make us happy? Something from the world? Nah – that all wears out eventually – planned obsolescence, perhaps, so that we will actually quit looking for “stuff” and “get it”- the clue, the answer, the “One Thing” that Curly was talking about in City Slickers – the thing that we each have to figure out for ourselves. But once again, let’s go to the Board: “What One Thing do we want to make us happy?”– Survey says – Ding: A Great Relationship! Yes, we all want a great relationship with our world. That might include a certain someone in our world, but even then, we still want to be in a great relationship with our world, don’t we?

What if we’ve been “courting” this relationship our entire lives? Kind of like a blind date, only it was a double blind date, because we didn’t even realize we were on it for most of the time! And what’s the scariest thing about a blind date? What will “they” think of me? Or maybe more importantly, “How will I know if this is the One?”

Well, let’s use dating tips to see how we might want to act to secure the One Relationship of our dreams and achieve happiness!

What’s the number one thing you could do right on a first date?

Survey says – Ding: Act casual. Be at ease with whatever is going on. You can’t control it, anyway. Your date is going to sense if you aren’t relaxed about yourself.

Got another tip? Let’s go to the board – ding: Be yourself! I don’t care what you think you might want out of life, but you aren’t going to find it while pretending to be someone else. If you faked it on the first date and it worked out, then what are you going to do later when you are “found out”? And you will be found out, because we just can’t keep quiet, can we? Who we really are always comes out in the end, so let’s start there – let’s be ourselves and be relaxed with that, and see what shows up.

What else can you do to make that blind date work out? Survey says- Ding: Be open and honest! It’s a little like being yourself – there is absolutely nothing to be gained by hiding the fact that you’re a klutz, or you can’t cook. What’s the easiest way to be “open”? Listen. Learn to listen. I don’t care if you’re dating Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, they will definitely appreciate it if you listen. And in listening, it is so easy to be ourselves, to be relaxed – to be “real”. Do you notice what happens when we really listen? We no longer have to try to control the way the date is going. And we might even get a wild idea on a new way to have fun. (No, not that – sheesh!)

So how is our date going? I’m feeling pretty good about it – you?

I’m looking at my world and I’m relaxed in it – no need to try to control it or plan everything out – just be myself, and be open – just listen to the universe giving me every clue that will lead me to what I really want.

About the Author: Brian enjoys his 4D time as a Project Manager, a Writer, and a Father. “Writing is the way that Spirit guides me to be a leader”.  See more of Brian’s writings at God is Writing and at Living Las Vegas

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